Sunday, May 22, 2016

Spiritual Sunday: Covenants

Following the death of Joseph and Hyrum Smith at Carthage Jail, the latter-day Saints were poised for a time of great change. As the saints faced yet another expulsion from their settlement, they continued work on the temple. Brigham Young began administering the endowment to as many Saints as possible. Elder James E. Faust recounted in his April 1997 General Conference Address, the following diary entry from Brigham Young.
“Notwithstanding that I had announced that we would not attend to the administration of the ordinances, the House of the Lord was thronged all day. … I also informed the brethren that I was going to get my wagons started and be off. I walked some distance from the Temple supposing the crowd would disperse, but on returning I found the house filled to overflowing.“Looking upon the multitude and knowing their anxiety, as they were thirsting and hungering for the word, we continued at work diligently in the House of the Lord.” 1And so the temple work continued until 1:30 A.M.”

Then Elder Faust added another facet of history to Brigham Young’s account:


The first two names that appear on the fourth company of the Nauvoo Temple register for that very day, February 3, 1846, are John and Jane Akerley, who received their endowments in the Nauvoo Temple that evening. They were humble, new converts to the Church, without wealth or position. Their temple work was their final concern as they were leaving their homes in Nauvoo to come west.”


In the midst of the turmoil that the Saints were experiencing, I think it is deeply significant that so much effort was made to actually administer the ordinances to the people. Once these ordinances were performed, many of those saints were able to leave behind their lives, property, and security behind, knowing that they could move forward with the Lord’s work.


What is the purpose of a covenant? I believe there are many purposes for covenants. However I wish to address only one, which is that covenant-making deepens and improves our relationship with Heavenly Father.


There are three ways in which covenant making enable us to become closer to God.


  1. Covenant making binds us to God.


Elder Jeffery R. Holland says that “a covenant is a binding, spiritual promise.” Elder Holland points out that we make covenants personally and individually. Alma the Elder in preparing his people for baptism says that they “are desirous to come into the fold of God, and to be called his people.” As a young woman, I recited the Young Women’s theme every Sabbath day and declared with my fellow sisters, “We are daughters of Heavenly Father, who loves us and we love Him.” In boldly saying this declaration we were acknowledging that we weren’t just spiritual daughters of Heavenly Father, but that we had made covenants making us part of God’s kingdom.


When Moses had his powerful encounter with God, God tells Moses, “I have a work for thee.” I believe that God has a work for each of us to perform. It may not be on the grandiose scale of Moses’ calling as prophet, but it is real and significant. And when we enter into a covenant with God, we are more likely to fulfill that calling.


  1. Covenant making and keeping helps us determine and dictate our actions and choices.


Covenant making not only binds us to God, but sets about determining our actions and choices. Consider Alma the Elder’s words to his people as he prepared them for baptism.  (Mosiah 18: 8-10)
Willing to bear one another’s burdens
Willing to mourn with those that mourn
Stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things
Serve God
Keep the commandments


In the temple, we make specific covenants which dictate our actions in specific and profound ways. Seeking to align our lives in accordance with these covenants helps us remember God, deepens our “binding” to God as well help us draw closer to Him.


  1. Covenant making helps us REMEMBER God in our lives in a personal and intimate way.


An essential component of covenant making and keeping is remembering. For that reason, we renew our covenants weekly when we partake of the sacrament. In the temple, we also remember our covenants as we perform proxy ordinances for the dead. As we remember our promises, we are more likely to act upon them. When we act upon them we are improving our personal relationship with God, it becomes easier to feel the Spirit and God’s great and deep personal love for us. We are more likely to be inclined to do what is right about deep conviction and genuine love.

I’d like to share a story with you about my Dad. My dad was raised in a good, but non-religious  home. Shortly after high school he got married and together he and his wife had three little girls. My dad is a deeply devoted family man, but he also deals with a lot of anxiety and stress. He often drank and chewed tobacco. Shortly after his third daughter was born, his wife became very ill and died. He was a widower at 25 years old with three young daughters to raise. To say he was scared and worried would be an understatement.


My dad told me that as he left the hospital following his wife’s death, he had a powerful witness that he needed to join the church. Now this prompting didn’t come out of the blue. He had many LDS friends, and his wife had been an inactive member of the church. Joining the church meant making major life-style changes. He quit chewing tobacco and drinking cold turkey.
He attended church meetings and tried to learn the culture and the doctrine. None of this was easy for him. Two years later, he met my mother and they were married in the Provo Temple.  I was the first girl of five girls that they would eventually have together. And just in case you were counting, yes that means there are 8 girls in my family and no boys. Don’t pity my dad, he has lived the life of a King.


Now I didn’t know my dad as a non-member. I only know him as a faithful, active member of the church. But I do know that my dad is very grateful for his membership and often recounts ways in which being a covenant member of the church has changed his life. I’d like to recount a couple of those ways.


  1. My dad committed himself to keeping his covenants and to the Lord. He has always striven to be worthy of the Priesthood. During the first 20 years of his life as a member, he always kept a current temple recommend in his wallet, despite being very far from a temple. He couldn’t attend more than once or twice a year, but he always made sure that he was worthy of those blessings. Now my parents are temple workers and drive four hours round trip to work at the temple once a week.
  2. Through keeping his covenants, my dad has been able to combat his weaknesses. He still copes with anxiety and stress, but because he keeps his covenants he knows to turn to the Lord as opposed self-medicating with alcohol or chewing tobacco.

Now, I’m not claiming my dad is a perfect person, but I know that because he has made and is keeping his covenants, he is a great husband, a wonderful father, and a true disciple of Christ. My dad’s own faithfulness and commitment to his covenants has inspired me in tough times to hold true to the covenants I have made. I can see how making covenants has helped my Dad bind himself to God, dictates his actions and choices, and helps him remember his responsibilities and obligations to God.


I am grateful for the opportunity to make covenants with God through baptism and in the temple. I am grateful for the power of covenants to bind us to God and help us come closer to Him.  
© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Scrapbook Saturday: Creativity Killers

There is nothing more frustrating than scrapper's block. I sit at my table, having cleared my schedule for scrapbooking but I am totally blocked. I aimlessly sift through my product or pictures trying to find a spark that ignites my creativity. Then I look at the clock, my creative time is gone, and its back to normal life for me. It isn't a pleasant feeling to waste precious creative time, especially when I feel so passionately about scrapbooking. In order to be productive, I think every scrapper should identify her/his creative blocks or creativity killers. In no particular order, here are a few of my blocks.

1) I don't have a story to scrap. Sure I have thousands and thousands of photos, but what do I actually scrapbook? I scrapbook to relate memories and experiences. While I enjoy creating pretty pages that highlight special photos, the layout isn't as meaningful if I don't have a story to tell about the photo.

2) All my product is disorganized so I don't know what I have. Then I spend my time looking through paper, embellishments, ink, and getting nothing done. I want to maximize my crafting time and not waste it looking through product.

3) I am too tired to create. Creating requires energy and if I am too tired I cannot make fun or inspired crafting choices.

4) I have too many product choices. Unfortunately, there are times when I waste my crafting time just trying to find the perfect embellishment or paper from my stash.

5) Perfectionism is the enemy of creativity. There have been too many times when I have been paralyzed by wanting to scrap a beautiful photo in the perfect way. I often give up because I can't scrap the photo the way I think it should be scrapped.

6) Feeling disorganized and without a plan. I know this is probably atypical for most scrappers, but I have learned that if I don't have a focus or a plan, I am not very productive.

Over the next few Saturdays, I am going to show you my solutions for overcoming these creativity killers.

What are your creativity killers? What prevents you for using your scrapping time well?

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Friday, May 20, 2016

Friday Favorites: Ultra Spiritual

Today's favorites are funny and guaranteed to make you laugh out loud.

I love J.P. Sear's Youtube channel where he gives you tips on being Ultra Spiritual.

My favorite video is about coconut oil.



This video about becoming gluten intolerant had my crying, I was laughing so hard.



And a hysterical commentary on yoga photography



Sorry for taking all your time today, because you will probably end up looking at all his videos.

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Throwback Thursday: Once I Wanted to be...


There was a time when I dreamed of being the First Woman President of the United States of America. I told everyone near and far that I was going to be president. I think this was during my Ronald Reagan phase. Once I settled on this goal, I made elaborate plans about the work I would do as President. Dreams change and so do people and I no longer cherish that ambition.

What did you dream of becoming as a child?

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Wondering Wednesday: How to Stop a Conversation

To my liberal, left-leaning friends, just some thoughts today...
I love having you as friends because you are thoughtful, compassionate, and care so deeply about issues. You are concerned with the disenfranchised, the weak, the minority, the ones without a voice. And you do it with a passion and strength that is inspiring.
Our country is so divided right now and I absolutely hate it. I hate how people scream past each other. I feel like neither side is listening to each other at all.
In the past few days I have seen several conservative friends try to start thoughtful and careful discussions about issues that concern them. They have done so without malice or cruelty. Almost every one of them has been shut down by the liberal accusation that their thoughts or concerns are motivated by ignorance, hatred, bigotry, or lack of grounding in science. This has been the de facto response by the left for a long time and it derails conversations and prevents real understanding or change to happen. It certainly destroys conversations in no time flat. I don't think that is your intent, and I bet most of you don't even realize you are doing it, but it happens constantly-and it is totally counter-productive and helpful.
We absolutely need to have balanced, thoughtful discussions where opposing viewpoints are presented. But both sides need to listen/read to understand, instead of jumping to an assumption. That means we have to ask clarifying questions of one another, and also be compassionate and thoughtful to one another.
(And I know I'm guilty of doing this very thing. I am really going to work on this.)
So what I am asking my liberal friends to do today is to stop and read to understand--don't jump to the assumption that something you disagree with is coming from a place of hatred, bigotry, or ignorance.

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Travel Tuesday: Traffic in NYC

I live about an hour north of New York City. Technically, my community could be considered a suburb of the city. We live close enough that going to the city for cultural and other events is feasible and frequent.

I avoid going to the city though--because of the traffic and the expense.

First, traffic is pretty bad. Two weeks I drove my sister 20 miles across town to get her to the airport. It took us 2 hours and I never went above 13 mph, until we got 2 miles away from the airport. That is pretty typical. I don't like sitting in traffic. I don't like the volume of cars and the roads are really narrow, so there is very little leeway if one has problems.

Second, it is expensive to go to the city. Tolls dot practically every road going into the city and it is a real schlepp to go out of one's way to avoid the tolls. We have an EZ pass so we are automatically charged for any tolls we go through. Then you have to pay for parking. We try to use our little car in the city because our big SUV gets charged extra to park--if you can find a parking garage that will take you. I usually plan on spending at least $40 to park.

If you take the train, it costs $22/round trip per person going during non-peak hours. If just a couple of people are going, that is a fine option, especially if people want to feel like they have had an authentic NYC experience. Otherwise, it really adds up when you take a big group.

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

Mothering Monday: Protect Your Children

Warning: This is a little ranty and possibly rambling.

I watched the movie, The Abolitionists, tonight. A group called Operation Underground Rescue poses as sex tourists and gather evidence to arrest and incarcerate traffickers of children and then frees the children who have been trafficked. It was a hard but inspiring film to watch.

I am grateful that light is being shed on the plight of so many kids around the world, 2 million of them, in fact. The movie also turned my mind to an issue that is almost too close to comfort. We don't really talk about childhood sexual abuse much--though the occasional article floats around. Most people don't understand that most children who are sexually abused, are abused by a relative or a close family friend. Some numbers float around (that may or may not be true) that 1 in 3 girls or women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. The number is supposedly 1 in 9 for men. Both girls AND boys can be sexually abused.

It is a sad, ugly, and hard to bear thinking about it. But it exists. In fact, almost every family--especially when you consider extended families, has a story, whether or not they acknowledge it. I have my own story in my extended family. I never experienced sexual abuse, but people close to me have. Its a pretty awful thing to experience as a child, and pretty horrible to process as an adult. In fact, it takes an average of 15 years for a woman to process and recover from sexual abuse as an adult, once she has openly acknowledged what has happened to her. I imagine that it almost more difficult for men to recover from childhood sexual abuse as our culture makes it much harder for them to talk about about being abused.

When I found out what had happened in my family, it fractured my entire world. It was a devastating experience that has taken me years to process. I wouldn't go back to a place of ignorance because knowledge has allowed me to protect my own children. But it certainly shattered family relationships and has seriously complicated my ability to trust in people.

Perhaps the hardest thing to deal with when addressing abuse is how often the women in the family will shield an abuser. A wife will shield her husband, siblings protect a brother, a mother will shield and protect her child the abuser. This veil of protection that abusers often enjoy means that more children are victimized and suffer as adults and pedophiles go free.

I'm going to be the first to admit that dealing with an abuser in the family is enormously complicated and there are no simple or easy solutions. But I can emphatically tell you what doesn't work. It never, ever works when a predator is protected from the law and the family tries to hush it up. Instead, lies web and entangle the entire family and it literally poisons them. Siblings can't trust one another. Parents betray each other and their children. And every single person in the family suffers. I know this because I have experienced it.

It requires enormous courage on the part of a woman to acknowledge the existence of abuse by her husband, son, or daughter and to then address it.

Every father and mother must be prepared to protect and defend their children from abuse and predators at all costs. To do anything less is the most profound betrayal of one's children and one's calling as a parent.

It has taken me years to forgive a person I felt betrayed me by protecting a pedophile. Don't protect bad people who do bad stuff to kids. Don't. I don't care how much you think it is going to cost if you do the right thing. I can promise you that protecting an abuser is going to bring more tragedy and pain in your life than you ever possibly imagined.

End Rant.

© 2007-2016 TIFFANY WACASER ALL RIGHTS RESERVED